1. Plan to move quickly into a plan of action. This may include calling on professional resources such as a lawyer, counsellor, the human resources department, or a life coach. When we share our situation with these people, they will have an outsider's perspective that can set us in the right direction, when our head is too cloudy to think on its own.
2. Focus on what we can control. In a crisis, there is often much we can't control. Our choice of action will likely have limitations. We can't control the actions of others, or what they choose to believe, but we can look at what is within our control, and make wise decisions. It's important to respect the boundaries of the people we're angry with (for our own good), and to fortify our own personal boundaries i.e. once the damage is done, we need to resist taking revenge, and we need to protect ourselves from further unwarranted attacks.
3. Brainstorm ideas of what should happen next. While it seems confusing, every cloud has a silver lining. There is something good that will come out of the situation. It's important to switch our focus to new pursuits.
4. Prioritize our next steps. Some steps are more urgent than others, like getting our finances under control, or seeing a specialist about a health need. Instead of dwelling on the bitterness, regret or fear we feel, we can take a rest, go somewhere to get a change of scenery, and make a list of plans and steps to be taken towards the changes we need to make.
5. Draw on healthy relationships. When we're down and confused, it can help to mingle with people who are positive, happy people whose lives are stable. Look to them for support, and also look for role models. Study what other leaders or those in similar situations did to pull themselves out of a crisis.
Life has ebbs and flows. It's what we do with those crashing waves that makes the difference between seeing life as unfair, or merely a challenge. Being resilient may not be our initial recourse when faced with difficulty it may be a new concept but it's one that has been proven by successful leaders. A resilient attitude can be practiced by us all.
2. Focus on what we can control. In a crisis, there is often much we can't control. Our choice of action will likely have limitations. We can't control the actions of others, or what they choose to believe, but we can look at what is within our control, and make wise decisions. It's important to respect the boundaries of the people we're angry with (for our own good), and to fortify our own personal boundaries i.e. once the damage is done, we need to resist taking revenge, and we need to protect ourselves from further unwarranted attacks.
3. Brainstorm ideas of what should happen next. While it seems confusing, every cloud has a silver lining. There is something good that will come out of the situation. It's important to switch our focus to new pursuits.
4. Prioritize our next steps. Some steps are more urgent than others, like getting our finances under control, or seeing a specialist about a health need. Instead of dwelling on the bitterness, regret or fear we feel, we can take a rest, go somewhere to get a change of scenery, and make a list of plans and steps to be taken towards the changes we need to make.
5. Draw on healthy relationships. When we're down and confused, it can help to mingle with people who are positive, happy people whose lives are stable. Look to them for support, and also look for role models. Study what other leaders or those in similar situations did to pull themselves out of a crisis.
Life has ebbs and flows. It's what we do with those crashing waves that makes the difference between seeing life as unfair, or merely a challenge. Being resilient may not be our initial recourse when faced with difficulty it may be a new concept but it's one that has been proven by successful leaders. A resilient attitude can be practiced by us all.
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